Note: This is an excerpt from the first draft of an as yet untitled book I'm writing. This is not the final product, but an insight into what I'm doing. Enjoy.
Emotions are a very important part of our lives. How we feel makes a huge impact on how we see the world around us at any given moment. That’s actually why we should never make a decision based on emotions. Since our feelings can be so prone to change, what feels like a good decision in the moment may end up having huge long term ramifications, which can potentially be very negative.
I want a new car. I feel like a new car would make my life so much easier. We get a lot of snow in the winter, and a car with all wheel drive and higher ground clearance would make me less likely to get stuck. It’s tough getting a car seat in and out of the cars we have, and a new one would make things a lot easier. The problem is, I can’t really afford a new car right now. On top of that, we don’t need one. It’s a want that I feel very strongly about.
If I bought a car I don’t really need and can’t afford right now, I’d be struggling financially and potentially lose the car I want so badly. I have to take that emotional desire for a new car and the objective fact that buying one right now would be financially unwise right now and weigh them together.
That means that, while I’m not making a decision based on emotion, I am allowing my emotions to inform my decisions. Because I want a car so much, I’m taking steps to allow myself to afford one in the future. This means that I’m allowing my emotions to positively affect me by giving me a goal to move towards and look forward to without making a choice I would instantly regret for years to come.
When I was 19 I fell head over heels in love with a girl. One night I woke up feeling like there was a problem and I needed to call her to make sure she was alright. So I called, she didn’t answer, so I left a message simply asking if she was okay.
There were a few problems with this. First, we weren’t very close. Second, I made the decision based purely on emotion without considering the impact (which I’ll get to in a moment). Third, it was 2:30 in the morning.
Imagine how that turned out. I was trying to become friends and develop a romantic relationship with a person I knew, but was not close to, especially not 2:30am phone call close. She was very, very uncomfortable. Justifiably so. I made an emotional decision that crossed a line. It took months to get back to working on the friendship and repair the trust I broke.
That’s not to say that every emotional decision ends up being a bad one, but It’s always wise to take a step back and try to have an objective view of the situation.
Emotions are good, and we will have them as long as we live. It’s always wise to take a step back, try to have an objective look at a situation and make sure it’s the right one to make.
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